Lack of Dependence on Each Other = DIVORCE ???

 Lack of Dependence on Each Other = DIVORCE ???

    Dear readers, as much as some of us hate to admit it, we are all dependent on others. For example, I am more dependent on my parents than I let on. They counsel me, bandage my bruises, and instruct me in the way of the Lord; but I still have a choice to make: will I be healthily dependent on them? What I mean is that I need to grow up, get a job, move out and get married one day. It wouldn’t be healthy to be dependent on them for everything when I’m 40 when I have the capacity physically and mentally to provide for myself and a family.

     Without the same principle of dependence, a marriage is not possible. A husband and a wife are supposed to “become one” (Gen. 2:24). What does that mean? I have heard Kevin Swanson illustrate it this way:  an ax head and an ax handle are both needed to have an ax, right? One piece alone cannot, and will not efficiently cut down the tree. In the same way a man and a woman that have married need each other to “get-the-job-done.”

        When marriage is no longer dependence on one another; but rather, two separate people that just said some vows, live together, and have children, there is no reason for a marriage to continue in many minds. People get bored of a life like that. But God meant marriage to be so much more than what we think it is. It is to be the foundation of the family, yet also an intimate relationship where two people become one in the sight of God. O this is a mystery!

 

Dear Christians, the divorce rate is higher in the Church than the world!

We do NOT live what we preach and what Jesus taught!

 

      Young adults, children, young men and women, older boys and girls or whatever you want to be labeled, you need to ground your marriage in God! Both of you being dependent on God together will be the strongest binding force of your marriage. Please, do not just become another statistic in the divorce rates when you get older. You have a role to play in a lasting marriage! When you marry, you have a part to play in the one person that emerges from two. Work together, love each other, but most importantly grow in Christ’s Truth together!

     Dependence is a key to marriage. You must be dependent on each other and God; you cannot separate through divorce, that is the only way a marriage can last. Husbands, no other woman will do. Wives, there is no other man for you. You are made for one person. Your vows last the whole lifetime that you are both to spend in this world. Live, learn, and grow in God’s love; grace; purpose; plan and everything else HE has for YOU TWO.

Read 1 Peter 3:1-7.

Divorce

Divorce

 

     If you became a Christian after you were married then do some Bible study on the subject of marriage, but I can assure you that you are not supposed to just get a divorce. Divorce is ugly and it is “legally” easy to do, but God’s rules aren’t as flippant as our governments’ laws; instead, His rules are for our protection and betterment and they’re perfect.

And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. 12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. 16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? 17 But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches. 18 Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised. 19 Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God. 20 Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called. 21 Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather. 22 For he that is called in the Lord, being a servant, is the Lord's freeman: likewise also he that is called, being free, is Christ's servant. 23 Ye are bought with a price; be not ye the servants of men. 24 Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God.

1 Corinthians 7:10-24 (KJV)

 

The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Matthew 19:3-9 (KJV)

Thought 310: God Instituted from Ryan's devotional book series Thougths

Thought 310

God Instituted

  God institutes marriages. Why do so many fail then? The answer is pretty simple: mankind’s pride. Many divorces are over small matters or just because “we’re not ‘in love’ anymore.” Ending a marriage on ANY grounds other than marital unfaithfulness (aka adultery) is wrong.

Matthew 5:31-32 KJV:

³¹ It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:

³² But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

 

 Even when marriages are formed without God’s direct blessing, He still does not want them to end (God hates divorce Malachi 2:16); but rather He wants them to be re-committed to Him so that He might bless and redeem their marriage. If you have married out of the will of God, the solution is not to get divorced. Stick with that person and set the example of Christ through your life. Even if you both commit your marriage to the Lord at one point, you still may have some consequences for your previous wrong. God’s heart is to heal a marriage, but He has given each member of the marriage a free will to choose what they choose. Thus, your choices have consequences, either blessings or curses (punishments, marks of the past, damaged name).

Why has the United States stood so strong and tall for so long as a pillar of freedom? It is not because of American initiative. It is not because of pride and patriotism. The reason why America has stood so long is rather simple as well. The Scripture tells us that we cannot lay any other foundation than Christ, because no other will stand the eternal test of the Lord’s fire (1 Corinthians 3:10-15). America succeeded as a nation because the very foundation of the first colonies and the resulting states and provinces was grounded on the foundation of Jesus Christ. The Lord blessed them! Americans have invented so many things and have become so well educated and talented, not because of the Protestant Work Ethic, but because the foundation of Christ was laid in their colleges and schools. The educational system was in the hands of the mothers and fathers of the pupils and they committed their children to education so that their children could read the Bible for themselves.

  God institutes things, but in order for marriages to succeed one of two things must happen, either the man and woman will lay aside their differences and work on the problems in their own strength for the greater good or the foundation of Christ shall laid and the result shall be the blessing (and renewal).

It is pride which is killing the educational world, our country, our people, and certainly our marriages.

 

Daily Devotion from Ryan Marks book series: Thoughts

Thought 147

“Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” (Mark 10:9 NIV)

     Mere men and women should not separate what God has joined together and disobedience to God’s Word requires correction, just like disobedience to earthly parents requires punishment. Because men and women are not honoring the fact that God has joined them together families are being broken, children are being left fatherless, hearts are being broken, and people are selfishly following their own “needs” instead of God today.

    Are you the victim of a divorced family? Do you want to be the victimizer of another? Hopefully not! Dear friend, we must acknowledge what God has done: joining marriages for life. May we obey lest we reap the lasting consequences of our hastily sown seed of divorce in this country.

Think about this today:

Before a man and woman marry, one important block to lay in their relationship is the fact that they will never separate the bond that God created between them.

They say this in their vows, but won’t live it without true                                 commitment, that is, true love (1 Cor. 13).

Daily Devotion from Ryan Marks book Thoughts

Day 135

Lack of Dependence on Each Other = DIVORCE ???

    Dear readers, as much as some of us hate to admit it, we are all dependent on others. For example, I am more dependent on my parents than I let on. They counsel me, bandage my bruises, and instruct me in the way of the Lord; but I still have a choice to make: will I be healthily dependent on them? What I mean is that I need to grow up, get a job, move out and get marred one day. It wouldn’t be healthy to be dependent on them for everything when I’m 40 when I have the capacity physically and mentally to provide for myself and a family.

     Without the same principle of dependence, a marriage is not possible. A husband and a wife are supposed to “become one (Gen. 2:24).” What does that mean? I have heard Kevin Swanson illustrate it this way:  an ax head and an ax handle are both needed to have an ax, right? One piece alone cannot, and will not efficiently cut down the tree. In the same way a man and a woman that have married need each other to “get-the-job-done.”

        When marriage is no longer dependence on one another; but rather, two separate people that just said some vows, live together, and have children, there is no reason for a marriage to continue in many minds. People get bored of a life like that. But God meant marriage to be so much more than what we think it is. It is to be the foundation of the family, yet also an intimate relationship where two people become one in the sight of God. O this is a mystery!

Dear Christians, the divorce rate is higher in the Church than the world!

We do NOT live what we preach and what Jesus taught!

      Young adults, children, young men and women, older boys and girls or whatever you want to be labeled, you need to ground your marriage in God! Both of you being dependent on God together will be the strongest binding force of your marriage. Please, do not just become another statistic in the divorce rates when you get older. You have a role to play in a lasting marriage! When you marry, you have a part to play in the one person that emerges from two. Work together, love each other, but most importantly grow in Christ’s Truth together!

     Dependence is a key to marriage. You must be dependent on each other and God, you cannot separate, that is the only way a marriage can last. Husbands, no other woman will do. Wives, there is no other man for you. You are made for one person. Your vows last the whole lifetime that you are both to spend in this world. Live, learn, and grow in God’s love; grace; purpose; plan and everything else HE has for YOU TWO.

Read 1 Peter 3:1-7.

    God bless, and may this simple description of God’s rules change your life and convict your actions. In Jesus Name, amen.