Lack of Dependence on
Each Other = DIVORCE ???
Dear readers, as much as some of us hate to
admit it, we are all dependent on others. For example, I am more dependent on
my parents than I let on. They counsel me, bandage my bruises, and instruct me
in the way of the Lord; but I still have a choice to make: will I be healthily dependent on them? What I
mean is that I need to grow up, get a job, move out and get married one day. It
wouldn’t be healthy to be dependent on them for everything when I’m 40 when I
have the capacity physically and mentally to provide for myself and a family.
Without the same principle of dependence,
a marriage is not possible. A husband and a wife are supposed to “become one” (Gen. 2:24). What does that
mean? I have heard Kevin Swanson illustrate it this way: an ax
head and an ax handle are both needed to have an ax, right? One piece alone cannot, and will not
efficiently cut down the tree. In the same way a man and a woman that have
married need each other to “get-the-job-done.”
When marriage is no longer dependence
on one another; but rather, two separate people that just said some vows, live
together, and have children, there is no reason for a marriage to continue in
many minds. People get bored of a life like that. But God meant marriage to be so much more than what we think it is.
It is to be the foundation of the family, yet also an intimate relationship
where two people become one in the sight of God. O this is a mystery!
Dear Christians, the divorce rate is higher in the Church than
the world!
We do NOT live what we preach and what Jesus taught!
Young adults, children, young men and
women, older boys and girls or whatever you want to be labeled, you need to
ground your marriage in God! Both of you being dependent on God together will
be the strongest binding force of your marriage. Please, do not just become
another statistic in the divorce rates when you get older. You have a role to
play in a lasting marriage! When you
marry, you have a part to play in the one person that emerges from two. Work
together, love each other, but most importantly grow in Christ’s Truth
together!
Dependence is a key to marriage. You must
be dependent on each other and God; you cannot separate through divorce, that
is the only way a marriage can last. Husbands,
no other woman will do. Wives, there is no other man for you. You are made for
one person. Your vows last the whole
lifetime that you are both
to spend in this world. Live, learn, and grow in God’s love; grace; purpose;
plan and everything else HE has for YOU TWO.
Read 1 Peter 3:1-7.
