Marriage’s
True Design—
Yes
there is the physical act of sex, but Souls are United as well (mind, will,
emotions)
God designed marriage so that the two
should become one. Now, I believe that this has two connotations. The first is
that marriage involves physical union. The man and the woman literally become
one flesh physically in secret. However, this leads into the second for when
physical intimacy occurs, the mind, will, and emotions (the souls) of two
individuals become connected too. Some describe this as soul ties, but
regardless of what you call it, when two people engage in physical intimacy
outside of marriage for temporary pleasure, there is devastation. So many
emotions rush through the person. They may feel robbed, used, or depressed, but
some things are across the board: a person’s mind, their will to go on, and
their emotions are discouraged and depressed when sexual intimacy has been
partaken of outside of marriage.
God has told us that fornication is so
important of an error (not just to Him, but to our well-being) that if
fornication is committed, the two must get married; unless, the father of the
woman will not allow it. This is still
God’s plan today for Jesus did not destroy the Law, but raise it even
higher to the Spirit of the Law and fulfilling it by living a perfect life.
Therefore shall a man leave his
father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one
flesh. Genesis 2:24 (KJV)
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers
and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4 (KJV)
Know ye not that the unrighteous
shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor
idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with
mankind, 10 Nor
thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall
inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And
such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are
justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians
6:9-11 (KJV)
Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the
body. 14 And
God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power. 15 Know ye not that your bodies
are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God
forbid. 16 What?
know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith
he, shall be one flesh. 17 But
he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. 18 Flee fornication. Every sin
that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication
sinneth against his own body. 19 What?
know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of
God, and ye are not your own? 20 For
ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your
spirit, which are God's.
1 Corinthians 6:13-20 (KJV)
And he said, That which cometh out
of the man, that defileth the man. 21 For
from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries,
fornications, murders, 22 Thefts,
covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy,
pride, foolishness: 23 All
these evil things come from within, and defile the man..
Mark 7:20-23 (KJV)
The Pharisees also came unto him,
tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife
for every cause? 4 And
he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male
and female, 5 And
said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to
his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore
they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together,
let not man put asunder. 7 They
say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and
to put her away? 8 He
saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to
put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall
marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away
doth commit adultery. 10 His
disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. 11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. 12 For there are some eunuchs,
which were so born from their
mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and
there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of
heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Matthew 19:3-12 (KJV), emphasis added
Note: Based on verses 11-12, Jesus
makes it clear that some are never to be married but to be single their entire
lives. However, a special grace “all men cannot receive this saying, save they
to whom it is given” must be given to those who are to remain single.
Therefore, God’s normal pattern is for men and women to marry.
And if a man entice a maid that is
not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. 17 If her father utterly refuse
to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins. Exodus
22:16-17 (KJV)
Now all these things happened unto
them for ensamples: and they are written for our admonition, upon whom the ends
of the world are come. 12 Wherefore
let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall. 13 There hath no temptation taken
you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye
are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may
be able to bear it. 14 Wherefore, my dearly beloved,
flee from idolatry. 1 Corinthians 10:11-14 (KJV)
Rejoice evermore. 17 Pray
without ceasing. 18 In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of
God in Christ Jesus concerning you. 19 Quench not the Spirit. 20 Despise
not prophesyings. 21 Prove all things; hold fast that which is good. 22 Abstain
from all appearance of evil. 23 And the very God of peace sanctify you
wholly; and I pray God your
whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our
Lord Jesus Christ.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-23 (KJV)
The Lord
is righteous in all his ways,
and holy in all his works. 18 The
Lord is nigh unto all them that call upon him, to all that call upon
him in truth. 19 He
will fulfil the desire of them that fear him: he also will hear their cry, and
will save them. 20 The
Lord preserveth all them that love
him: but all the wicked will he destroy. 21 My
mouth shall speak the praise of the Lord:
and let all flesh bless his holy name for ever and ever. Psalms 145:17-21 (KJV)
If the two marry as they should because of
adultery, they should not live with their parents, for God’s Word clearly says
that the two are to leave their father and mother. Sadly in America today, this
command is being blatantly disregarded by Christians who allow their
fornicating children to bring a “partner” into the home or allow them to live
together “until they are ready to get married.” If they have had sex, they are “ready” to get married. Finances are something that is important and
that will likely be a tight area as a result of their sin of not waiting, but
waiting longer once to marry after fornication has been committed is not
justified anywhere in the Bible. Both the man and woman are accountable to
God for their actions.
